Little actions that made a difference

1. I used to ask myself two questions randomly during my routine. My questions normally sound like these:

” What have i learnt today?”

” Can i improve or change these? how could i do then?”

2. My questions are rather simple but i found them powerful at many times. When i put my emotions into play while asking these two questions, i felt better and resourceful. Hope seem to exists from these questions. My mind will direct me to start thinking of the whole day i have been through and filter out what are neccessary to ponder upon.

3. Interestingly, there ll always be something to ponder upon. For example, problems of the day, cherishing moment to remember of, “silly” things that i did, intimate moment, sadness, lost a deal and so forth.

4. When emotions ran high and i start asking myself how to deal with it then or what should i do now, these open questions make me think better.

5. Unfortunately, for past months i haven’t really followed through what i have learnt and experienced.

 6. Two days ago, i received a letter from one of my major clients ( not to name here) and sadly, they have decided the pilot project for one of our products are to be cancelled, which ultimately means they will no longer be interested to continue implementing our product. I was devastated. Not only was i devastated, i had made the company devastated. I was thinking how should i respond to my company.

7. To my despair, i sat down quietly that night and carried myself  a deep thought of what went wrong and what i have learnt from here.  Somehow a book came into my mind, i went to my room and grabbed a book from Jack Canfield on his success principals and found out two things that caused my “failure”:

a.) Take Action  from page 154

b.) Commit to constant and never ending improvement of page  239.

8. While i ask myself two questions as aforesaid, i failed to take massive actions immediately and improve from my actions to justify what needs to be done next. I used to take little things lightly thinking that i should be looking at the bigger picture and let the little things take care of itself or later.

9. But as often times, its the little things that transform the little actions into bigger result. I may have planned in details but my actions do not reflect my aggressiveness. Like it says, plan but take more actions.  

10. So, i have learnt something new today.

The day I receive present again.

Hoosh..the last time I blogged was that I moved again..yes I moved again for the third time and this time it’s further away. That makes me an inhabitant no different than ancestral men searching for greener pastures to settle. So as usual, a new place comes in with house invitation, which means holding up a luncheon buffet. Oh by the way it’s been quite a while since the last time I have ever organized any event so it feels like I’m holding up to a project worth millions to please my fellow friends. And It’s so totally unexpected to see a huge turnout at the last minute. Come on, guys bringing their girlfriend, husband bringing their wives, wives bringing their kids. so when you add up to that, it turned out to be a holy crowd, all make it’s way to squeeze fit into my tiny house. I wasn’t even sure if food was enough to cater.

but you know what, every time you hold gathering like this, it’s not necessary a bad thing after all. people just know what they should do..presents! And that spiced me up for the night. The last time i received any present was on my birthday a year ago and it it got less. Haha. I’m greedy so I won’t pretend like I don’t want them to give, and i couldn’t hold to wrap open them. I was so bloody curious to know what was hiding inside the wrapped paper.

So the time was finally right for me to open these mysterious gifts I was about to own. And here are some of them that I got:-

A fish tray

A bread toaster. Well too bad I don’t eat toasted bread but anywhere thanks to you pretty!

This one appeals better:-

Why ler? Because i can make my favorite hot cappuccino anytime I want and never have to grab a kettle, stand like 10 second to fill in water and plugged the wire and then wait another damn 10 minutes to boil. Now it’s done within 1 minute. See how technology had brought us, the mother source of all laziness onto human beings.

Glasses to fill in my entire family in the future. Thanks Aaron!

A card. Thanks for the ‘compliment’!

Ok Ryan came in late, and just as I was about to punish him for being so late, he reached out something from his pocket and handed this to me, and he was pretty convinced that I loved this the most, guess what..

A red packet! Shit..he does really know what I want! How much inside? Enough to pay for a call girl…but nah.

My white chick

I would like to introduce my girlfriend to you all if anyone of you is reading this. In fact she is not only my girlfriend, i should call her my wife and also my best friend as well. Her name is white chick, little white chick.

I “got” her more than 6 years ago. At the time, she was such a virgin and clean that I couldn’t resist to take her out all night long on our first day. I made sure she got “pumped” up with full till her stomach could not fill no more and washed her like i caressed none stop and put on the best liquid perfume to make sure she look more pretty and virgin than it ever was. I also maKed her up with leather cloths and super sun glasses more branded than a
prada. And I love her. In fact I dreamt of her that night and the night after..and the day after that. It actually lasted only more than 2 years when I no longer afford her. Call her high maintenance or perhaps calls me flat broke that she couldn’t even be able to be pumped filled with secret recipe desert..both are equally correct.

To tell you more about her, she was the one and only who actually followed through my life almost everywhere I go, listen to me talking, crying( mayb), picking up mistresses, dudes and even helped carry my heavy loads of stuffs, she never despised me. When I got no Money one time, she still
went all the way to make sure I could earn money by “using”
her, and the best part is…she never complained! When I was fed up or pissed off, I kicked her and bumped her ass loudly, she stood there quietly and stood by me,still. Walao where to find this type of gf. I must be an ass***, I make love to her when I want to and kick her ass too when i
hated her.

I have regretted that I haven’t really taken care of her at some point of time. Literally I failed to mAintain her beauty, now that She’s a quite old, flabby and a bit smelly, but one thing I realize and for sure confirm one, is that…I STILL LOVE HER. Why? Because of her I am still here and is able to continue money, I got pick up new lady, (she learnt not to get jealous) continue to carry my baggages, and pretty much low maintenance for me, and the truth is, I’m her only bf owner, anywhere.

Hey, please let me introduce to you my little white
chick….

Isn’t she still pretty?

Business service

There was this one night when I was having a drink with couple of my friends at a local coffeeshop. We sat there for quite a while but none of the waiter or waitresses noticed us. But we saw them..very obvious. Few of them. And ironically they were not busy. In fact they were grouping together at one corner chit chatting among each other. So one of us got impatient and yelled and waved like shouting for help sort of things and apparently one of them heard him and thus came forward. It didn’t end there. The guy who served showed us a grin face without even looking at us as if we owed them money or stole his wife. Well, I know incidents like this is common. You know lah coffee shop..it’s a normal service scenario many of us would be expecting,neither do I expect any cheerful chicky smile anywhere, i just want to get my drinks ordered.end of story but hey we are customers
anyhow. Unless you were busy and got whacked or scolded by
customers, we are innocent victims here though. What I really wanted to share with you all are some incidents similiar to this one which I have encountered when I used to operate a clothing line.

At the time, I was trying to promote my brand so I figured out that my beautiful sales girls should wear t shirts bearing my shop name. So I went to one of the printing companies where they do the engraving somewhere at third mile. I approached a middle aged lady and enquired what I needed. Who knows what she would have said in a local dialect.
” how many you want to print? We only print in bulk”

So I responded by saying that I may need a dozen. Ssshhh. Immediately she showed me a rejected look and said something like this if Im not wrong

” c how lo”. That was it. She continued to type her whatever paper work. I took her company name card and gently thanked
her before walking away. You see, it wasnt the dozens of shirts they are not printing, nut it was the attitude that matters. i defintely understood that some big companies would not entertain small lots orders, whether its the costs, or the worth value thing, but at least kindly reject and probably offer me an alternative, a recommendation on some other place….

Everywhere I hear people said that their businesses are bad. Kuching no business…

” Kuching small small place, mana can make big money.”
” Kuching, can cukup makan enough la. Where got business”

In retail, often I heard,

” bolang(people) Where got Lang.(people).
And they also blamed customers who didn’t buy from them.

You see, I was in business before too, and I agree that in business human plays large roles in determining the survival of business, but the truth is also that there are more than 600,0000 population in our city. If we cannot even provide a good service how are we expecting business to come back? Yes I failed but not because of the service but for other reasons which is not the topic here now. If we can provide a good service no other competitor could provide, at least a warm and welcoming attitude, 5% of increase by thise factor could make a significant difference, and with the 5% recommending his/her friends what do we get? Figure it out. That’s a lot of difference.. Isn’t it? 🙂

 

 

Everyone has talent

At the time of writing this, i have just attended my company’s talent night event at Crown Square ballroom organised by my company. It is a night where people from my company are contesting among colleagues to show their true talents. i almost didnt attend it earlier on but i went anywhere despite being tired after a hot day at work. Thank God i went. It was an event i shall not regret.

The contest began right after the first dish was served. The first contestant who was from our factory department stood up on stage and performed his malay song. ahh..i thought it would just be another frill of rookies who just wanted to seek fun by singing the heart out as you know.., so didnt bother to even look anyhow. But as the music rolled and this colleague began to pitched through his voice, i got stunned for a while. I looked up and hell.. He really could sing! It was so well with his melodic pitches and the way he manipulated his voice matching the music. It wasnt what i expected. And it didnt stop there. The second participant too,  sang a malay song and by then, i was already alert. I began to get very attentive on how the next participant can sing, and yes..all of them can sing! from english to malay to chinese..and they really were good. They are so talented! wow what was i thinking. 

At that moment, i started to realised that there are so many talented person among my colleagues, and to be honest, my singing could not equally matched them at all, and yes perhaps my guitar skills too. THe security guard who performed solo by guitar played much better than i did, i think..They were talented and when i asked one of them, they told me that music is his passion and he ocasionally perfomed during wedding events and so forth. Gee..they could try their luck in the music industry and make millions, why on earth were they doing here and be a nobody. So I got very curious the whole night thinking while driving a long distance home on why this happened? Wouldnt it be a waste for people who have talent never utilised it or worse still, never even know what they can do ultimately. or is it that their confidence, their mentality or is it they dont want to know and do what they like at all? I kept thinking and have came out with several possibilities:

1. They didnt know what they are good at, or havent realised their utmost potential.

2. Influence around them could be the factor that prohibitted them from doing so. Such example as their parents thought it wasnt worth it so taught them so.

3. they dont have confidence, fear could have stopped them.

4. They want to fit into the society, doing what everyone is doing, and get a descent income.

5. They didnt find opportunity, or the right people at the right time that could upbring them.

6. They werent interested at all though  they know they are good at.

Well, for a common reason in my opinion, I think each person is in fact talented in one way of another. Deep inside lies a talent that perhaps was never discovered for many people. Maybe they didnt realise it. Or maybe they know but wasnt convinced themselves that they are, or some never tried so they never knew. and alot ended up living the lives like everyone doing a normal routine everyday. Have you ever heard people who said that their lives are dull and bored, anf felt nothing excites them, and feels ‘dead’ emotionally. Perhaps there is one way we can find our own talent and really discover ourselves of who we are and tap what we are talented in. One of the ways is to do different things everyday. Perhaps we can try to do something that we may want to do before but never do. For example, like going to a karaoke and try the microfon, hit the piano and strummed the guitar etc. Maybe we can try to commit each day by doing two different things and see what we got. It wont be a surprise that one day we could find what we really want and can do that no one else can. As we find new things everyday, not only we would discover our talent, but also find life become more interesting and full of opportunities. Maybe our mindset would change. Time would be spent fruitfully and we find purpose in life, such thing called as life satisfaction.

And this reminds me of something that i wanted to do…

Celebrating 1st quarter of 2011

Its March 2011 and its coming to a near end of the first quarter of this year. I would like to celebrate some of the achievements i have planned for this year.

1. My traffic summones equivalent to 14 seperate bills have been fully settled.

2. My Driving licence has been cleared of blacklisting. In other words, i have regained back my driving licence. Now i can drive freely without fear of being caught.

3. I have got my car working again!! Yup i have!

4. I have travelled to KK! though i dont spent much of it.. a bit paiseh to say that.

5. Im 70% near reached the minimum income quota i have set for this year to consolidate my bad debt (well at least for one month. not so bad rite?)

With that, i am gearing ahead of the next three quarters of this year with hope and drive i can achieve the rest of them. God Bless!

Alvin J 

Happy Chinese New Year 2011!

It is just two days away before we celebrate the chinese new year celebration 2011. Chinese in malaysia and elsewhere throughout the world could have been busy preparing for one of the most important festivals in the chinese history. For those who are reading this, perhaps it is my assumption that you could be busy too cleaning your houses, buying the finest  clothes, receiving bonuses and ang paws so forth . You must be excited over these past days in preparing for this coming festival.

In essence, the new year is a time for family reunion, restoring peace among each other, spending quality time with family and loved ones, paying house visits especially to the elders. On top of this, allow me to take this opportunity to reflect one important resolution in conjunction with this new year festival-a time for forgiveness.

If we allow ourselves a moment of silence and reflect back into our past, is there anyone in your life who have hurt you or have done wrong against you in one way of another and which you find it hard  to forgive that person? perhaps it could be someone close to you, be it your spouse, loved ones, ex lovers, family and even friends or aquaintances who have remarked you badly, or ill treated you in forms that you find it seemingly difficult to forgive and let go of it? Or maybe some incidents or ocasions that have occured between you and the other party which have resorted to both hating each other, or worst still the other party isnt even aware that he/she had hurt you so badly that the whole thing kept playing inside your mind and you dont seem to be able to unwind it and distort that feeling?Eventually it had led you to anger, resentment and even wanting to revenge onto that person.  If this has ever occured to you, may i suggest a good starting point: ask ourselves if we are ready to forgive? What if we decide to forgive and on the contrary, what would the result be if we choose not to forgive instead? I agree that forgiving someone isnt easy especially if the impact was big. Maybe we decide that if we were to forgive, it would mean that we are at fault and we have lost, the other person won and thus we dont feel good about it. You might argued” how can i forgive this person after what he/she did to me?” The truth is we can forgive that someone if we choose to. Indeed complete forgiveness might take some time, but as we enter into a new lunar year, it marks the beginning of a new life and experiences, by forgiving, we can allow ourselves to let go of the power and control of the offending person, choosing not to allow grudges, hurt or wrongdoings to define our lives. It simply means that we decide not to prolong our hurt and pain knowing that it doesnt serve us any good. Forgiving does not mean that we have lost. It is our own importance in inculcating ourselves because we want our lives to work again this year onwards, and to have our inner peace and mind. One way to learn to forgive is by LOVE- love ourselves and love the offending person. It sounds easy but in fact it is possible to attain it.

I was personally hurt by certain people just not so long ago ( more than a year ago) and i have found it hard to forgive after how they have done much wrongdoings towards me and people close to me. As i went through the hard process, i have came to acknowledge that keeping this anger inside of me have caused me my motivation, leaped away my energy and resulting in me losing my sense of control.  I have deprived this life and the many many experiences that  i can experience positively and achieve. And hence, i have learnt that instead of keeping that anger and avoiding, i chose to LOVE that person again. Love by all means reflecting on the positive i can experience instead of the negative and it slowly frees me. Forgiving by love means acknowledging the wrongdoings but releasing it to heal myself and the rest, turn to God to decide the rest. I was able to love and live fullest again. Two days ago, i delievered a box of mandarin orange to that person and forgive. It is this that i feel good again.

So folks, let us make this new year more than just a festive season by giving us a moment of thought of who we can forgive and how powerful it is to forgive by beginning with love. We can  look towards the betterment and cherish every moment we have in life by Forgiving, loving and this is the ultimate key to inner peace and complete happiness.

May i wish you all again a happy and peaceful new year with successful and more happiness ahead of you. I end this by a quote from Rhonda Bynes. God bless.

“”If you find yourself in a negative situation with someone in your life, take a few minutes each day to feel love within your hearts for that person, and sends it out into the universe, Just doing this one thing helps to remove any resentment, anger, or negativity towards that person. Remember that resentment, anger, or an negative emotions attracts it back to you. Feeling love attracts love back to you, what you are feeling for others, you are bringing it to you.

Rhonda Bynes

 

with love: Alvin j

Welcoming 2011

Time flies and once again, we are coming to the end of 2010 and to mark the coming new year of 2011 within just  less than 6 hours.I felt that time really flies and  honestly, i could still feel the sensation and remember where i was when 2010 approaches exactly about a year ago. It still feels fresh! Did you get this feeling too?

As the year end approaches, have you achieved what you have planned? Have you fulfilled yourself emotionally, financially and spiritually?  perhaps i think its a good moment for us to review back what we have done and have achieved for the past 365 days of our lives. I have personally reviewed back my goals and experiences to see how i can improve myself for the goals i havent met and take gratitude for the ones that have achieved. I still believe that it is a praise if we have achieved all our set goals but also to be proud of ourselves if we have only achieved some. Thats because we have taken the most important steps: taking actions. And from there, we can allow ourselves to become better for the coming year ahead and set new goals. I admit i havent achieved all my set goals tis year but i have learnt something most valuable that i have succesfully understood:

Let us all welcome  2011. To everyone, i wish you all a Happy Fruitful 2011 and i do wish you the best of everything in the coming new year.

God Bless us all!!

Alvin from Public Mutual

Merry xmas 2010

i take this opportunity to wish all my clients, prospects , family and friends a merry xmas 2010.  May you all enjoy this xmas celebration together with your loved ones, family and close friends. For christians, i believe you would fulfill your obligation to go to church and i wishyou all a safe and pleasant trip. Jesus is born today. As i too clebrate the joy of xmas. i think one thing most important for me is a time for forgiving and a moment for me to cherish every moment i have in life as i move towards a new day as well as welcoming a new year in jusst a few days Let us give ourselves a moment of self thought on what are the things that are important to us and the meaning it gives to us as we are about to begin a new journey ahead towards new vision.

God bless us all!!

Top things i aim to achieve within next 30 days before 2011

I think i can declare this publicly as it could even drive me up to achieve them.

1. Achieve my optimum healthy weight to 70kg. ( i am now 75kg) right in time to wear my coat for sis wedding.

2. Clean up all  the mess in my room/file all my letters and billings.

3. Get my car working again.

4. Achieve that MYR3,000.00 in sales PMB.

Once i achieve these, i shall be moving forward to the next level. My top one year Goal Plan in all the 4 categories i have planned much earlier ago.